January 22, 2016
For many years I was not very good at acknowledging or celebrating small wins, especially my own ones. This may sound familiar to you. What the little voice in my head was saying to me was something like:
“This is no big deal. Everybody could have done that. It’s your topic, hopefully you know something about it.” And so on.
It was not aware how damaging this was to my personal growth, so I kept doing it for a long time. And I also used the same standard for my team until I came across a book by Shad Helmstetter with the title: What to say when you talk to yourself. I was aghast when I learned how many times a young adult is discouraged during the growing up process. Later on when I studied neurosciences and became a Neurostrategist I could fully grasp the impact of my wrongdoing.
“Never again”, I said to myself and started the reverse process. I am still learning today and I am very glad to see that I am getting better and better every day. Because I learned to
Acknowledge the small steps
Not matter how far your goal is, how high the mountain is you want to climb or how difficult it is to research your topic – everything begins with a fist step.
And once you have made this first step you absolutely must celebrate. You do this not for your ego, you do it because it serves you.
- You have built a new neurological pathway in your brain.
- You want to keep the momentum so that you repeat.
- Correct repetition makes permanent. You hardwire your brain.
- You become more confident.
- Every win/repetition makes you more competent.
- Reward the behavior you want to see more of.
- You are closer to your goal.
- You are motivated to continue.
- You can digest mistakes easier.
This is just a small list of positive things which will be stimulated by celebrating. The more you do it, the easier it gets.
Establish the habit to celebrate all wins
Once you benefit from celebrating all wins and you can clearly see and feel how this practice helps you to generate win after win after win, you have to share this habit with others, if you haven’t done so yet.
By acknowledging every positive step of others not only makes you popular, it also satisfies you because you realize how much impact you can have on the success of others – especially in your team.
You will see that as a result others want to follow you and without even claiming such a position you have become a Heartfelt Leader in the eyes of others. They might expect more of you than you do and believe me, there’s no better fuel for personal growth than the positive expectancy of a true friend.
It is scientifically proved. Period!
I don’t want to bore you to death with scientific research, but rest assured, everything that I have told you, can be measured and scientifically proven.
So even if you don’t believe in brain and neuroscience it is hard, if not impossible, to fight the results coming from measuring techniques.
Instead of hesitating or doubting, do it and let me know your results.