January 22, 2016
In order to get through your day in a good and uplifting way you need to have a lot of energy.
But where does it come from?
Most of the energy we consume throughout a day is produced by ourselves. Yes, we are power plants. By moving around, thinking the right things, eating the right stuff and by spending time in the right environment, we create the energy we need.
A high five here, a pat on the shoulder there, this is the way we all would like to go through our day. Unfortunately, from time to time, life gets in our way. Sometimes we are stuck in meetings, then we have to collaborate with energy thieves or even worse, we ourselves fritter away our valuable resources.
Positive energy is your priceless life force. Protect it. Don’t allow people to draw from your reserves; select friends who recharge your energies . . . I’m not asking you to cut people out of your life, but I am asking you to invest your time with people who will push you to be your best. Winners love to see other people win.
― Chalene Johnson
How do we do that?
Working closely with thousands of people over the last 30 years, I have found one specific behavior most devastating to our energy. I know this may sound too easy to be true, but believe me it is.
This one single thing that most of us are doing several times a day will make a huge difference in your life if you are able to stop it. We are all conditioned to do it unconsciously and when I will disclose it in a moment, the little voice in your head will go nuts.
Are you ready to hear it? Sure?
The reason number one why we are blocking so much of our valuable energy is because we are not telling the truth. It is the white lies we use when someone is asking something from us. For instance when your boss is making a statement to get out of his embarrassment and you nod silently with your head. Because you are embarrassed as well.
Or your friend is showing up because she wants to show you her newest trophy, the garment she bought in her favorite boutique. Of course you can agree that the miniskirt is cute, that’s what you tell her. But inside of you you know that there are more favorable clothes for a 57 year old, slightly overweight lady. But you don’t tell her.
“It is difficult to say what truth is, but sometimes it is so easy to recognize a falsehood.”- Albert Einstein
Got you? No? I told you that your little voice will rebel. This behavior is so strongly routed not only within us but also in our society. Instead of saying as it is, we use approving words or gestures although we don’t mean it.
If you don’t believe me watch your days carefully. Make a decision that you will point your attention to this very problem for a least one day. Spend some time at the end of the day and write down your observations.
Why is that?
We are so obsessed not to hurt others that we don’t realize that we hurt ourselves with such a dishonest behavior.
No one wants to be hurt by inappropriate behavior or by rejection and as a result we do unto others as we like them to do unto us. But this is just a wrong interpretation of the commandment.
We need to become present and realize that there always is a better way. Of course we can be honest without hurting someone else.
So what to do instead?
I know telling the truth is not very popular these days. But more than ever it is very rewarding.
It takes a lot of courage to go against mainstream behavior but in my experience it not only pays off, it makes you stronger and less vulnerable.
Telling the truth or saying as it is does not mean that you have to hurt or contradict somebody. Everything starts with your intention. If you express yourself with the right intention and with loving kindness you will find that exactly the opposite happens. People start to admire and love you for your honesty. They can see the Heartfelt Leader in you and they want to follow you so that they can learn to do the same.
In a time of universal deceit – telling the truth is a revolutionary act. – George Orwell
How to be honest
The first thing you have to acknowledge is that you have a choice. You can decide whether you join the behavior of the masses and use white lies or you choose to be a trusted source by telling the truth.
Secondly you have to learn to be present so that you can grasp the moment when you still can make a decision, this fraction of a second before your conditioned behavior sets in. Once you learn to do that you will feel the enormous amount of energy that will be released, energy that you can use to be more present and become more aware of what is going on.
And the third thing that you will have to do is to enjoy the transformation within yourself which will take place. You will become more alive, more present, more aware and others will see you as a force for good, as someone who is able to bring forth the best in others. Someone they will want to follow.