January 22, 2016
Life is relatively easy unless we start to interact with it
How do we do that?
For instance we are looking at something and then we are judging whether this is good or bad. Let’s say you are listening to a speech of a celebrity and you don’t like it. You say: “This was an awful speech, I totally disagree.”
Another example can be the new car of your neighbor. Although you think buying a Tesla is a good idea, you can’t understand how someone, in this case your neighbor, can buy a frog green Tesla. What does he want to express with that? Does he want to be greener than the rest of the world?
Or maybe you get a letter form the tax authorities asking you to hand in additional information, deadline end of the month. You may say something like: “Do they believe that I have just waited for their request, that I have got nothing else to do than working for them?”
It’s great extremes which leads to great drama and great comedy. – Vince Vaughn
You may think that my three precedent examples are a bit extreme. Unfortunately they are not. Take some time and carefully look for a full day, how most people you will encounter, are seeing their world. For most people this world is full of problems. And if you talk to them, they will say: “How can you see good things in this world when all the news we get are negative?”
We have a choice
How can it be that in the same situation one person is full of hope and positive energy while another one is frustrated and powerless? What is the difference between these two persons?
It’s our filters which determine how we make sense of specific events.
The way we categorize, label and judge things is determined by the filters we have in place. These filters certainly come from our experiences, some of them are our beliefs or other people`s beliefs and other are meta programs and we have no idea where they come from.
But this does not mean that we are poor victims of our past. We always have a choice how we make sense of things. For most people it is more convenient to let information run through their standard filters, with no extra effort involved. Others are more vigilant, they want to sit in the driver seat and decide by themselves how they want to use a certain incident – for or against them.
As human beings we have been given free will. It is always up to us whether we give up or fight through. Just because we are used to let things happen does not mean that we are discharged from the effect.
We are responsible
The question is: Are we able to respond? Do we take responsibility for the outcome and do what needs do be done?
My advice is to accept pain in the short term so that you avoid suffering in the long term. Do the needed changes now and harvest the benefit of those changes for the rest of your life.
What could these changes be?
Where should you start?
We are all perfect in the process of becoming.
Accept the fact that every medal has two sides. There’s no light without darkness. There’s no joy without suffering. There’s not hot without cold. We live in a world of duality.
Over the years many of us have been conditioned to look at the false side of the medal. By striving for excellence we have become extremely good at finding problems, seeing the mistake that has to be corrected. Or in other words: We just think negative.
On becoming a good finder
Don’t get me wrong, this article is not finger pointing at you. I have written it for me. Because I want to become a good finder. Period!
In the last 25 years of my professional life I have become really good at finding the smallest thing that does not work perfectly, in no time and with no effort. I have solved problems for my clients before they even saw the problem.
My wish to help others was so big that I developed let’s call it an “investigative intuition”. I have developed the ability to know beyond any doubt what’s needed next, without even going into deep analysis. That was good for me and it helped me to produce extraordinary results.
And as I am growing as a person I have found the means and the ways to bring this to another level, by using the power of positive thinking.
People can only grow to your level of expectation of them.
Therefore I challenge myself every day to find the good in everyone and everything – instantly. I am going through the world with the intention of seeing all the good everywhere, right now.
This is conscious re-programming, my new way of looking at things, until it has become an unconscious competence. This needs a lot of effort, but this is nothing compared to the reward. Just by going through life with a good intention is opening doors. And as a result, people I meet for the first time, offer me gratuitous services I would not even dare to ask for.
I would like to invite you to follow me on this journey on becoming a good finder.
Here are seven steps to start with:
- Be aware of your attitude and mood (change it if needed)
- Project always the best on everything and everyone
- Greet everyone with loving kindness
- Make compliments to unknown people (start with three per day)
- If you can’t say something good, remain silent
- Inspect what you expect (introspect at the end of each day)
- Enjoy the process
I am so curious to hear from you how this worked out for you. Please share your experiences with us.